Acknowledging Feelings / Stop Pretending Like It's OK,

Looking around in my own world and some of yours I realized that I am not the only one forced to act like nothing is wrong (esp. during the Holidays).  This behavior has led me deeper into the darkness by making someone else feel better.  I'm going to pretend you haven't talked about me/hurt my feelings/or (your comment here).  Why are your feelings more important than mine?